Twin Flame Research, Part Three: Results and Conclusions
Hey there! Thanks for coming along for my journey with this crazy non-scientific research! We have reached the final chapter, and its a long one! Grab a cup of coffee and a scone and take your time reading through the response results of my survey and my impressions of my Akashic Readings!
Here we go!
Pardon my lack of creativity in this last blog, however, I thought it may be interesting for you to get a taste of how my survey participants answered some of the 22 open ended questions. I feel like there are some nice clusters of similarities. Here are some of the highlights:
Q1. When did you meet your twin flame?
I asked this to see if there were clusters of time frames that souls were meeting each other--Nope. The earliest was 1989 and the most recent was February of 2017.
Q2. Gut impression of you TF when you met:
“I recognized him, I sensed his soul,” “I didn't think he liked me,” “I felt I would know him deeply,” “this is someone special, someone I knew I had been looking for,” “I am going to marry him,” “When I looked into his eyes, I could watch his soul,” “familiar, like our energies matched,” “Fe felt familiar,” “a magnetism,” “like we have known each other a long time,” “deep connection, like we have known each other before,” “intrigue,” “like an intense attraction,” “instantly drawn to him,” “a depth to her I have never seen before”
Q4. Did you get into a romantic relationship:
25 out of 29 responses did.
Q5. Are you still in the relationship:
22 were. (Nine of those specifically stated that they were married, although I didn't ask that, so maybe more of them are)
Q6: Whats been the hardest part:
“Brought out the most vulnerable pieces of each other that needed healing,” “emotions,” “getting to the same level of authentic communication,” “most of it is,” “facing the rawness of life, owning our decisions, the ups and downs,” “communication,” “we had a lot of hardships, but its made us stronger,” “we are the same yet go different ways about it,” “mirroring, understanding that the purpose is to heal and awaken,” “communication, we are sensitive” “compromise,” “day to day life stuff,” “readiness, communication, showing up,” “butting heads,” “feeling its not working but knowing it was where I was supposed to be,” “I couldn't read him”
Q8: Did you seek help from outside sources (included family and friends):
27 of 29 did. Participants were allowed to check all that applied. 48.15% sought intuitive/spiritual or psychic help, 33.33% sought counseling, 37.04% friends, 29.63% asked family, 44.44% responded in the “other” category, many of them stating they knew they needed to work it out on their own or within themselves.
Q9: What was the feedback from family and friends?
27 answered the question. 12 reported positive or encouraging feedback, 12 reported mixed feelings such as “at first didn't understand it, but now they see,” the other few answers were not qualifiable.
Q10: What was the professional feedback?
13 answered. “helpful to an extent, but we had to find our way to ourselves,” “helpful,” “was told-he can't do it, too many issues/complexes,” “was told- that he does not communicate,” “was told-he wasn't meeting my needs,” “they said he should go away and set me free, but we don't want that,” “it's past life stuff,” “we need to communicate without judging,” “move on, he is not coming back,” “could see our love but couldn't understand why we couldn't make it work.”
Q13: Are you the runner or chaser?
29 answered, 24.14% said Chaser, 20.69% said Runner, 27.59% didn't know. And 27.59% answered in the “other” stating some version of “both”.
Q14. Why did the Chasers chase?
“simply had faith in the process,” “had ability to envision things, including our life together,” “knew we were meant to be,” “just knew this was right,” “nothing else fit,” “something special here,” “the chaser is more spiritually evolved,” “too special not to chase,” “I loved him,” “the feeling was so strong and life always brought us back together,” “just felt the connection, had to pursue it,” “the chaser was the beacon of light for my/our depths, for the authenticity of us”
Note: I think the "chaser" is a hard position to describe. There is high potential of sounding like someone “who just won't let go,” riding on the brink of being seen as “addicted” to love. The main theme in the responses here can only be described as a "feeling, a faith, a knowing"... and if you are like me, I have thought I “knew” things in other relationships that didn't turn out to be so! It seems as if there was something that kept them continuing to find the faith to keep at it, even if the other person wasn't so sure.
Q15. Why did the Runner run?
“too much going on emotionally, I was completely overloaded and my sense of reality was distorted,” “wouldn't give into the relationship, but finally did,” “fear, self-judgment, ego,” “he doesn't now himself and someone trying to know him deeply was threatening,” “the runner runs because they need to be the catalyst for awakening,” “not loving myself enough,” “was scared, and outside influences affected him,” “too scared to face what is bringing up the feelings,” “overwhelming,” “ run in stressful situations,” “overwhelmed, energy was too immense,” “fear from the past and of making life changes,” “it was more like escapism behavior when I am overwhelmed, pressure became too much and the weight of the responsibility and constant demand,” “because it was hard, I was scared, I wasn't feeling in those times the positive was outweighing the negative,” “panic”
Note: I particularly love the insight here on the “runner.” I love that not one answer suggested that a person “ran” from the relationship because of the other person. Each response suggested the runner ran because of something stirring within themselves. There is no blame here, and I really appreciate the insight and ownership! I am also noting how many times “overwhelmed” came up I the responses, making me curious if the “runner” may also be the person who is more emotionally or energetically sensitive... or if the “chaser” is the person who has more skills or tools in dealing with emotional stuff?
Q18: Did you feel you received the support you needed?
8 yes, 8 no, 7 not sure, others “n/a”
Q19: What advice would you give other TF's:
“be open minded, put your energy into your heart, it won't always make logical sense, be ready for a bumpy road, this will bring out the ugliest parts of your soul while illuminating the most beautiful parts too, you must be ready to accept all parts, this is a healing process,” “be calm,” “therapy,” “be patient and talk,” “hold on and enjoy,” “unlearn everything society taught you and build the relationship that feels right for you, know you are evolving, celebrate the steps along the way,” “have faith,” “work on your internal blocks, learn to be whole and happy as an individual,” “let go of expectation, enjoy the blessing that this is,” “meditate, take care of yourself mind, body and spirit, follow your heart, just let things be,” “1. acceptance, 2. forgiveness, 3. unconditional love,” “work hard and reap the benefits,” “its about spiritual growth and healing, not earthly labels or ideas, don't compare yourself to others, each path is unique,” “be patient, communicate with respect and open heart,” “have courage to go deep within and support each other as you do” “keep talking,” “it's hard but worth it, its a life long journey of being a teacher and a student together,” “don't be hasty, nothing comes easy, even when it is meant to be,” “relax into love, trust, this is your counterpart,” “inner work is very important for a harmonious relationship,” “it's going to be intense, it can be infuriating, whether you stay together or not, the time spent will change your soul,” “keep and open mind,” “give each other the space you need,” “if you are committed to each other and both committed to making the relationship work, it will be grand,” “talk to each other.”
Note: I don't know about you, but I think that is all really good advice. Twin Flames or not, what beautiful perspectives on relationships! Thank you Twin Flame Research Participants!!
Going about the Akashic Readings
Now, onto my super subjective account of the 17 Akashic Readings I completed as part of my “Can I feel something here that would signal that it is a Twin Flame, that is, is this two parts of the same soul?”!
And the short answer is: No, I couldn't feel that. I wasn't told that these were “twin flames” or “same soul” or anything like that.
BUT, I did sense some cool stuff!
So, firstly, it became really clear that my two questions “why did they unite” and “what are they uniting to do” ended up being the exact same question. When I crafted the question, I was curious if there was some clear and specific contribution to the world that the Twin Flames are doing together like “open a business” or “write a book”... but it quickly became clear to me that the reason the two people came together was the same answer as what they were here to do, which in essence is to support each other's growth in some way.
I should mention that I did the readings as “blindly” as I could. I did not know how each reading participant answered the survey questions. Some reading participants told me they were married. I could tell other information about the relationship due to my super keen sense of deduction (aka how they asked their questions). Some participants did not ask additional questions and I was left with just the two questions I crafted. Because of this, I was really happy that I offered the participants the option to ask extra questions for my reading. Their questions helped me gather more information, and they unknowingly helped me out a lot. For some readings, the additional questions helped me focus in on the energy of the reading, which I will